Why Connecting Online is Not Enough | 03/30/2016

Hola!! Special thanks to Rachel from Silver Mess for writing this epic post for us today!! Go give her some love on her website!! I also wr...

Hola!! Special thanks to Rachel from Silver Mess for writing this epic post for us today!! Go give her some love on her website!! I also wrote a featured post for her website that you can check out here. You can also find Rachel on twitter @rrachelalisonn and on instagram @silvermess

This month's theme was Connection. Connecting with people. Trying to meet those who are like you, who share the same passions that you do.

But what next?

Connecting with other people isn't just about the followers. Neither is it about the number of pageviews, or the number of comments. No, connection is just the beginning. And connecting is not enough.

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Cultivation is what comes next.

My dad always tells my siblings and me to "cultivate relationships." He's said it so often that it's become a dead, beaten, battered, mutilated metaphorical horse in our family, but he's right. Cultivation of relationships comes after connection. Connection is just the beginning.

If you really, genuinely want to get to know the people you follow, cultivate a relationship with them. Comment on their Instagram photos, just because you love their pictures. Respond to their comments, because you care about their thoughts and carrying on a conversation, even if it's on the Internet. Tweet them on Twitter just to see how they're doing. Remember little things. Wish them happy birthday. Treat it like a real relationship--the more you do so, the more it will become an actual friendship.

Connect. And then cultivate. We have all these people and places at our fingertips. We have the ability to connect. It’s a little harder to cultivate relationships, especially on the Internet, and nothing will ever replace real-life interaction, but with time and consistency, we’ll be able to generate unique relationships with people from all walks of life. And, if you ever get the chance to meet the person in real life, the awkwardness of meeting a new friend will be gone--you’ll be able to chat up each other like old friends. Which, in a way, you will be.

No matter what, always remember that there is an actual person staring at the opposite screen. That’s a person with a story, a personality, and a future, just like you.Relationships are what you make of them. Will you connect with someone, then fizzle out? Or will you actually spend time trying to get to know the person? Followers aren’t just numbers on a screen. You have the potential to affect their lives positively, in more ways than one.


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  1. This is such a great reminder, Rachel!!

  2. Replies
    1. You're so welcome! You're welcome any time. :)

  3. YES. Always need this reminder. Thanks for sharing ^-^

  4. Aw love this post! Such a great reminder . . . especially nowadays. The screen is taking over our actual relationships. Something like liking someone's picture could make their day!