Month III - Building Relationships

Wow friends, we've made it so far this semester.  Not going to lie, there was a lot going on this month... Not only in the literal se...

Wow friends, we've made it so far this semester. 
Not going to lie, there was a lot going on this month... Not only in the literal sense that my calendar was chock full of classes, assignments (professors get together to schedule ALL THE TESTS within the same week, I'm quite sure) activities, events, and more. But also in the figurative sense that I've been thinking a lot about what I want to do with my life and how I want to approach my college journey.

With all my mental confusion and exhaustion, I've been really leaning into the relationships I've made here on campus. It's hard to do life in solitary: we need our people.

We need people to speak truth into us, speak life into us, speak hope into our messy and discouraged minds. Friends, if I've learned anything so far in college: we need to both seek out people who will do this for us and also be these people for us. 

So, without further ado,  I present The College Journals, third edition.
Copyright The Teentrepreneur

Lows //
Especially in the honors college, there's this underlying notion that everyone is competing against everyone for the best grades, best jobs, best whatever. It's certainly not intentional, but it's there.

I've been sick for nearly a month, and I'm definitely not the only one. Illness spreads real fast when you live with 200 of your closest friends.

There are so many wonderful lectures and events that almost every single day I have to say no to something or someone. It's frustrating because there are SO MANY GOOD THINGS TO DO, and SO FEW HOURS IN A DAY.

I do not, in fact, like Greek Epics. That is all.

My friends and I discovered that we do not think we will ever truly be free of stress/able to relax fully until we retire. And maybe not even then. What a concept.

I've been planning on switching the program I'm in, but that has caused just way too much stress and upheaval in picking classes for next semester.

College is just A  L O T of reading, so trying to read my Bible at the end of a long day or week is really difficult. I'm working on it.

I've gotten to be so busy that I've realized that I have stopped caring about a lot of things that used to really like. Like color coding things and wearing makeup and reading fun stuff. I guess it's not necessarily a bad thing, it's just different.

Highs //
Having really intelligent conversations. Like, not just "hey how was your day" but like biblical and political dialogues. College is such a rich time to have Big Discussions.

My cousins,  the "little people," live a few minutes away from campus and I get to babysit them or have dinner with my aunt and uncle and the kids once or twice a month. I love being able to get off campus and just   b  r   e   a   t   h   e . Family is good for the soul.

omg omg omg wow I saw Clint Harp, known for his work on (honestly the best show ever) fixer upper and now his own tv show just casually working in my favorite library on campus. It's casual. Totally normal. Update: saw him AGAIN!!

Spending a Saturday at a football game is such a wholesome, lovely way to have fun. For one of the morning games this month, we got up early to get breakfast tacos and then headed over to the stadium to get close to the front to run the line, a beloved tradition here on campus. It was FREEZING, so we huddled in blankets while we waited in line, and it's just such an awesome way to build relationships, you know?

Our birthday party tradition continues, we actually had two squad members' birthdays on the same day, and the tradition continues where we use a video of birthday candles on someone's phone because candles aren't allowed in the dorms.

One Sunday night, with the weight of the next week's stress piling on,  a couple of friends and I plopped down on the floor in the hallway and watched an episode of the office. I had some leftover ice cream from a party, another friend had a quarter of a pie that her mom brought her, and we just spent a half hour in a mini chill session.

Our very first women president was inaugurated this month and I'm so happy. She's truly a gem.

There are weekly worship services on campus, and one week I went with friends and we were able to pour out our hearts in prayer together. I never really did this sort of thing in high school, and it has shown me the power of community in my relationship with Christ.

So I was trained very classically in piano, where one tiny error ruins the entire song. I got to play the piano for one night in chapel, and I realized how wonderful it is not to have to worry about the tiny details and just use my worship music to glorify God. What an experience.

Bible study. Getting plugged into a church group and reading through God's word together. Discussions.

I went to a leadership conference and wow learned so much. I don't think we always realize it, but we're all leaders in some way. We all have a sphere of influence and the opportunity to impact other people's lives.

We have this designated study spot in the big library on campus, lovingly entitled the secret room. There's hardly ever an afternoon where you won't find my friends and me holed up in there.

IJM is a super cool organization that's doing epic things, and I've gotten involved with my college's chapter. It's a lot of prayer and sharing information about human trafficking, and I love it. 10/10 would recommend checking out/supporting as you can.

A couple times a week, I get to have breakfast with The Squad before we start our uber busy days and it's such a great time to just center our thoughts and enjoy community over omelets and hashbrowns.

The Verdict //
It's been a good month, my friends.
I've realized that relationships help me focus on living outside of the stress of my own mind. They force me to focus on others and leave my own problems aside, if only for an hour. They force me to put my (obviously not very big) problems into perspective.

So tell me,
Who are the people in your life that you've built relationships with? What do you look for in friendships? What does your squad do to hang out?? No seriously, I'd love all the fun (and please cheap because are all broke!!) ideas for friend activities!!

Let me know how you are doing, friends.
Keep being epic,

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  1. HEY GIRL!! Glad you are doing well and getting through college life! I said "same." to a lot of the things you have mentioned. The candle lighting video made me laugh. It's a funny little thing not to be able to have candles on birthdays. We need more time in the day, yes!

    1. HEY GIRLL!! Thanks for your sweet comment!! I hope college is going super duper well for you. xx

  2. Love this! One of the things on my bucket list to do with friends is to have a big game of hide and seek in Ikea. (Or any big store, really ;)).

    What I (somewhat successfully/unsuccessfully) look for in a friend is someone I can be honest with. Someone I can tell about my bad day, or a random thing that made my day better.

    Glad to see your post! Hope you are doing well. You totally got this college thing. :)

    1. Wow, Ikea hide and seek sounds epic!! Mmmm... I love your definition of a good friend. Thanks for your sweet post!!

  3. I love hearing how college is going for you!!

    I'm sorry you've been sick for so long! That's the worst, ugh. But I love all of these happy moments:) I hope that college continues to be filled with those for you!

    1. Wow, such a sweet comment, Grace Anne!! Thank you for reading. xoxo

  4. I love reading people's posts about college because it's been on my mind a lot recently (I start in February, and I'm so happy to finally be able to know where I'm going). I still don't know how it will be, but i'm really looking forward to meeting new people!

    1. Yay! I'm so excited for you! best of luck!!